Some wounds don’t bleed. They don’t blister. They don’t scab. They slip under the skin, quiet, unacknowledged, and stay there. Emotional injuries that never got the chance to heal properly, because there was no space, no time, or no one willing to hold them with care.

These are the scabless scars, the kind that weren’t allowed to crust over, to protect, to heal. Instead, they were hidden behind polite smiles, swallowing tears, or the constant need to be "fine." And so, they stayed raw, not in sight, but always just beneath the surface. Unlike physical scars, these don’t fade with time.

They get reactivated, by a word, a look, a familiar kind of silence. The mind reopens what the heart never had a chance to close, but here’s the truth: just because a scar didn’t scab doesn’t mean it’s weak. It means it endured in silence. It means survival without support. It means you carried pain without asking others to hold it for you. Healing scabless scars take a different kind of medicine. Not time alone, but truth. Not avoidance, but acknowledgment. It says: Yes, this happened. Yes, it hurt.

And no, it wasn’t okay. Only then do we start to soothe what was left untended.

Only then do we stop hiding our pain from ourselves. You don’t need to pretend you were never wounded. You only need to stop pretending you don’t deserve to heal.

Thought-provoking reflections on life, identity and relationships, written in the style of a modern-day Socratic journal and told through poetic paradoxes and emotional honesty.

by Paul Strydom.

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