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Sometimes we remain somewhere long after we have emotionally left. A job, a relationship, a friendship, even a version of ourselves that no longer fits.

We know it is over, but we stay.

Perhaps we are afraid of failure. Perhaps we fear what other people will think, or perhaps we simply do not want to be the person who makes the final decision. Then, one day, we are dismissed and suddenly, the decision has been made for us but what if dismissal is not always rejection? What if sometimes it is release?

Being dismissed can make us question our value, when in reality, the decision may have little to do with our worth. Circumstances change; relationships end, organisations restructure, and people move in different directions.

The painful part is often not losing the position. It is realising that we had already outgrown it. Perhaps we should have resigned earlier, but we were waiting for permission to leave.

So sometimes, being dismissed is simply life writing the resignation letter we were too afraid to write ourselves and perhaps the greatest act of resilience is not asking, “Why wasn't I wanted?”

It is asking, “Why was I still trying to stay somewhere I had already decided to leave?”